Home For The Holidays: How To Untangle From The Mess

  Have you stood at the doorway, staring hard at the happy little wreath, under the shadow of the glimmering Christmas lights, hearing the laughter and jingle bells from the other side and hesitated. Taking a moment to breath in the joy now because you know by the end of the festivities you will be…

I Am Single: From Defeat to Destiny

I am single. I am single. I am single. I am single. *sigh* Sometimes I think if I say it enough times, the truth of my singlehood may finally sink in. For the past 6 years, I’ve been “renting space” in the land of singleness. I haven’t quite settled in, hung the pictures on my…

Gods Gift

*I’m so excited to be hosting this incredibly talented guest blogger. I have the pleasure of knowing Tillie through a group I lead at the Community Uplift Partnership called “Women of Worth.” In a recent conversation about what we love to do, Tillie mentioned a collection of poems she’d written. Her writing is real, masterful and…

A Chat Over Coffee With My Former Self

You look tired my sweet one. This is the absolute worst moment of your life, and you have no idea what will unfold. You are hidden in the denial in which you are cloaked. Up until 1:30 this morning, you were living a Cinderella life, with a loving, successful husband and two beautiful children. You…

What Every Divorced Parent Needs to Know About Starting Over

Two years ago I made a life changing announcement. Two years post-divorce, I announced I would commit to a year of no dating; a sabbatical, if you will. “WHY?” you ask. Why on earth would you take yourself off the market? I guess the best answer I can give is I wasn’t really my best…

No Turning Back

As he turned the corner and out of sight, I knew his first solo journey home from school would be marked in my memory forever. He’s declared his independence. I can never reverse my decision and he can never be little…ever again. There’s no turning back. Isn’t the same true for me? Once I’ve proclaimed…

5 Things I Learned About Love By Not Being In It

How many church pews have you sat in, watching a bride and groom gaze lovingly into each other’s eyes, listening as the pastor recites this familiar verse? Love is patient, love is kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is…

That Time The Ex Found My Blog

After all this time… Writing about the impact divorce has had on me, my boys and mostly my healing. Writing about the hurts and the pains. Writing about the victories and joy. I never, ever imagined it would be read by the very one who made so many words tumble onto the keyboard. I’ve known…

Celibate

  So this is it: The mountain I am going to die on. Some days I think I’m really going to die alone and celibate on this mountain. For whatever reason, God has called me to be Holy in this area. Holy simply means to be set apart. To not follow the regular customs of…

Becoming…

I have an announcement to make, and I realize it will affect some of you more than others… I will RESUME dating May 2, 2014. Yes friends I have committed to a year of no dating. WHY, you ask. WHY on earth would you take yourself off the market?? I guess the best answer I…